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Posted by: WebMDave 2 years agoI'm an editor at WebMD. The arrest in the JonBenet Ramsey murder may have parents wondering how to be more aware about child sex abuse and how to protect kids. This story may be helpful.
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STONERS
Aug. 17, 2006, 2:35 p.m.I agree ftblguy, I also think that little kids shouldnt be taught to dress up like adults-wear make-up etc. They need to enjoy doing what kids do. They have plenty of time to grow up and be adults.I also think its rediculous....
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chrisbtig
Aug. 17, 2006, 2:44 p.m.I'm not disagreeing with you, but isn't that a bit like saying women who don't want to be raped shouldn't dress provocatively?
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justaguy
Aug. 17, 2006, 2:44 p.m.Although I agree that dressing up 6 year olds in provocative and sexually suggestive outfits is a bad idea, the parent's stupidity and vanity should not be punishable by violent deaths of their children. Just as rape is not the right punishment for stupid gal's flirting. If we folllow this sort of thinking, we will put all our women and girls in veils and long, ungly outfits. This is what muslems do. Do you want to live in Soudi Arabia? I don't.
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Button
Aug. 17, 2006, 2:48 p.m.I don't agree with letting a 6 year old dress up and wear makeup either but come on he is an adult no matter what that little girl wore she is 6 he is a grown man.... If you look at the facts you'd see he got fired from his teaching job for child pornography.. Come on he's a PIG and shouldn't breathe the same air we humans do....
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dtress1d
Aug. 17, 2006, 2:56 p.m.Regardless of how the little girls or for that matter little boys dress, I believe that this is GOOD advice and if you have children and/or grandchildren you may want to keep these points in mind.
I have heard other professionals say that many, many times the offender is someone that is known to the family whether by family, friend, neighbor, or religiously.
Thanks Doctor for passing this on!
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Tigra
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:06 p.m.Why is it that you all are referencing Jon Benet's case? there are millions of children worldwide who get touched , fondled, raped, molested, etc. by family members, relatives and people known to the family. Of all the cases I know of personally, I am yet to hear of one where a total stranger was the pervert. Parents have a responsibility to teach their children that IF some1 tries to fondle or touch them in any inappropriate way, they have to SPEAK OUT! Victims of sexual abuse especially keep it bottled up for years and then become 'mental'into adulthood. Teach the kids to speak out and tell a.s.a.p. I warn my child no matter who it is, if any1 (teacher, grandpa, grandpa) touches in "that" area, tell mommy. I also warn that if they threaten to do harm to mommy, dont worry, tell anyway....this assures that the abuser's threats wont scare them into keeping quiet
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sholay2006
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:12 p.m.government should make strongs laws for sex offenders. the laws are very very weak. sex offenders goes in jail comes out and do it again. what for usa govenment small kids are nothing. not only in usa bit in wholewide world law should be strong for sex offenders .
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sholay2006
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:15 p.m.UNITED STATES GOVERNMENT SHOULD MAKE STRONG LAWS ON SEX OFFENDERS.
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highfrequency
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:16 p.m.The numbers in this article seem a little misleading to me. It says that 67% of sexual assaults reported, involve children under 18, 34% involve children under 12 (or something) and 1 out of every 7 (14.3%) involve children under 6. I think they mean that 34% of the 64% of reported cases, and 1 out of every 7 of the 64% of reported cases.
When I was reading it, I was astounded that so many cases involved kids... 115%!!!
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Tigra
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:22 p.m.Gordonboy, I wasnt referring to your statement. I was speaking out to ALL of you who were referencing Jon Benet's case & speaking on the way the little girl was dressed. No matter if she was in a teeny tiny skimpy bikini, no grown man should be eyeballing her- let alone raping & murdering her. No excuses for sexual crimes-period!!!
I never said that there arent cases where total strangers rape minors, I said that MOST cases are in which some1 that is close to the child and their family, is the pervert! It makes my blood boil when these sex offenders get away with this. Children are second class citizens worldwide, but they do grow into adults...and when they are victims of abuse of any kind- they grow into 'mental' adults with "problems"...This is nothing new, but we have the technology & capability to make these perverts' lives a nightmare.. I'm with you gordonboy- I may have to do some jailtime if that was to happen to my child...
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sholay2006
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:25 p.m.NOW THE TIME HAS CAME THAT PARENTS SHOULD TEACH KIDS AND BE OPEN IN TELLING THEM THAT THEY ARE BAD PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD TOO. NOT ONLY GOOD. THEY ARE SEX OFFENDERS IN THIS WORLD. BE OPEN WITH KIDS.
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chrisbtig
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:29 p.m.@highfrequency: Um, I hesitate to call you a moron, but you can't just add those numbers up. The kids in the under-12 and under-7 age groups are already included in the kids under-18 group. It's 67% for ALL kids under 18... that includes 12-year-olds and 7-year-olds.
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:32 p.m.I happened to be scrolling through and I had to agree wholeheartedly with two of you. One simply always watch your children, and two do teach them to speak up and out. My sisters once almost got abducted and because my oldesst sister was taught correctly and was raised to be bold enough to follow that advice they were safe. I am teaching my daughter that you dont have to talk to anyone, and tell them outright and out loud they dont talk to strangers, and if they touch you , scream like a ninny, bite, kick, scream your not my daddy/mommy, and i mean that in all seriousness. I usually dont hate people , but i will put some hurt on someone that hurts my lil one or anyone elses. Another point from someone who I know personally went through something is dumb parents that dont listen to their children. You of all people know your children and their behavior, are they acting strangly , do they freak out when left with someone or a certain person?
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Tzefer
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:40 p.m.As said increase the punishment to the utmost terrifing it can be. Spay and Nutter them first off just like animals. They deserve no children EVER. Teachers with young students should be punished even more. Sure we say it is all learning and growing up for the boy if he is seduced by his teacher. Not so it is still child molesting. No first offense crap. First offense is the only offense. If they say they could not help it. Fine help them to the chair or out of our country.
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:44 p.m.I cannot even fathom why or how someone could do something,.... anything to a beautiful helpless child. I agree, they desreve the worst, infinity times over.
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mrs-bean
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:51 p.m.Sholay,
I understand what you are trying to say but
it's not an easy thing explaining to a 4 year old what a sex offender is...first you have to explain sex! Concepts and realities such as these are hard for a child to understand and in some cases detrimental depending on the maturity of the child. It's bad enough as a parent to have to be paranoid and scrutinize everyone who comes into contact with your child, teachers etc, but to have to instill this kind of fear in your child is a real shame. Innocence in childhood is obviously becoming a thing of the past.
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justaguy
Aug. 17, 2006, 3:59 p.m.sometimes I'm stunned to learn that somebody was sentenced to 25 years for raping a killing a child. 25 years? The guy (most likely) will be out in 15-20. This just does not make sense. Do we really want that person roaming in a society ever?
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ffchief
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:09 p.m.I have a failproof cure for people who like to do these things to children. Its called a bullet right between the eyes.
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:10 p.m.gordonbjoy- like a horse with a broken leg.
When they are let out all they do is move to another place pick another helpless victim,..... a disgusting vicious cycle.
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:16 p.m.Gordongbjoy, i agree , enough with the excuses you either choose to be weak or be strong. Wrong is wrong, there is no excuse. It is a hard thing to explain to my daughter that there are ugly people out there and sit and have an extensive conversation with her on what she should do, what is wrong, what noone should do, especially since she is starting kindergarten,..... almost makes you want to store them in the closet away from all that. To drill that into them out of paranoia, telling them to repeat it , reminding them,........ a shame,
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:19 p.m.Bornagain- Hell we'd be better with out it all. No more drunks claiming lives, perverts preying on our children, druggies stealing and killing for their next fix. Human government is powerless, all they are is a bandaid to an ever increasing wound.
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monitachiquita
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:23 p.m.gordonbjoy- Barbarian?????!!!! While i do not wish pain and ugliness on MOST,.... we're talkin about our children here. Those little one with the stars in their eyes, whose smiles can chase away the ugliest of moods, whose lil arms and sweetbaby faces rest against your chest taking solace in being with you. COme on now. I dont know any punishment mean enough.
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ItsXandraDee
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:24 p.m.Know your child, I think that’s all I can say. Trust in them, and your instincts. Rarely does a child that's being/been molested act the same way they did beforehand. Too many people worry about 'stranger danger' and the creepy guy at the grocery store and then send their kids over to the neighbor they 'know so well', but don't know that their formerly happy child is now acting out/withdrawn/whatever and that neighbor has a SERIOUS problem. It’s not possible to watch your kids 24/7, but watch enough to know what's going on in their life. Also, change the laws. I know people that have gotten more time for marijuana than sexual abuse. Crazy world.
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whosaywhatnow
Aug. 17, 2006, 4:26 p.m.What happens to these sex offenders when they are put behind bars?
How many fathers are locked up, for whatever reason?
Now put two and two together.
25 years?
No. A life sentence.
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